Dating a man who is married but separated
Evan, Your advice is spot on; I have recently been dealing with a couple of friends crying on my shoulder over the very same situation; they “fell in love” with a “separated” (AKA still MARRIED) guy and are now devastated.
One ended up going back to his wife and the other wanted to “explore a bit” and is now dating multiple women, on Tinder, etc..
I have seen many men and women devastated by such an experience.
I ended up becoming THAT girl (the one who needs too much reassurance) out as a result and we have decided to take a break.Have you noticed the number of people who get married the day after they are divorced? If the separation period is a time to seek reconciliation, why spend energy in an activity that leads to divorce and remarriage? We are still married while we are separated, and we ought to so live, whether or not our spouse complies.I know this is difficult to accept, but I believe the present trend of open dating immediately after separation must be deterred.Love is when TWO people are committed to each other by choice every single day, not when one person has tingly thoughts and can’t let go of a complicated situation. I couldn’t tell you if he’s going to go back to his wife, move out, or how quickly he’ll be able to move on.I can tell you that these are decisions that are dependent on what’s right for HIM, not what’s right for YOU.