Dating advice fear of abandonment
If you worry about abandonment before it’s happened, Oshima warns that you can sabotage a relationship.
Sabourin advises that by taking ownership of your emotions, you can learn healthy ways of processing failures and fears and work towards your dream relationship.
Stop taking things personally: Things go wrong when dating.
We often second-guess why the guy wouldn’t call us back or why it’s taking so long to get a response.
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By Rachel Sparks On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to love and dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to overcome the fear of abandonment. Sabourin believes that we all have a fear of abandonment that traces back to our childhood. “We continue to perpetuate that fear into adulthood by abandoning ourselves.” Though you’ve heard the advice before, it’s worth repeating: you have to be your own best friend.
Abandonment fears typically stem from childhood loss, such as the loss of a parent through death or divorce, but they can also result from inadequate physical or emotional care.
These early-childhood experiences can lead to a fear of being abandoned by the significant people in one's adult life.
The best way to end this cycle is by just enjoying dates and releasing expectations.
A child who was physically abandoned by a parent or caregiver may struggle with mood swings or anger throughout life, and these behaviors may alienate potential intimate partners and friends.
When a child does not receive adequate emotional support from a parent, perhaps due to the parent’s own psychological issues, the child may not develop healthy self-esteem.
Sabourin warns, “Ignoring emotions creates a beach-ball affect: you can push the ball underwater, but at some point it will come back up with force.” Start by accepting what you are feeling, allow yourself to feel it, and then release those emotions.
Do you ever feel like you have to be perfect or you’ll be rejected?