Slight of mouth in relationships and dating
By getting ‘overqualified’ in unavailable relationship experiences, it’s about fear of not being “good enough” as if to say that if we put in enough hours and get a degree in trying to figure out others, that we’ll eventually be worthy of either a relationship with them or a relationship with available people. Of course if we persist at what we’re doing, we just wind up depleting our self-esteem.
Unavailable relationships and basically any relationship where we don’t truly get to be us and , is really about hiding out and fear of being ‘seen’.
Why is it that we feel that we’re being at our most ‘available’ and vulnerable in an unavailable relationship?
You become more guarded and stop being as honest and vulnerable as you were before. Sex, ego stroking, last minute arrangements, filling in the gap between this person’s relationships, being taken advantage of. The Baggage Reclaim crew (Or are we a tribe or a gang? ) is full of people who say that they want love, commitment, the whole shebang, but it’s time to ask ourselves when we have a recurring pattern of being with unavailable folk or we have hitched our wagon to the person who doesn’t want to budge from their position because their ‘ole commitment feet are set in concrete: Why do we want to commit to the person who doesn’t want to commit?Over the years, many a reader has claimed that they’ve been emotionally available to an emotionally unavailable partner.Here’s the thing: If we are truly emotionally available and want to keep our integrity and basically not be met with tumbleweeds or the equivalent of, One of the things I’ve learned from experience and also through the stories of BR readers, is that when we habitually engage with an emotionally unavailable person, even if we started out available, in the context of this involvement, we adjust ourselves.After all, it was his event that began the start of their new life.Whether youre looking for love or just a good time with some great people, try a Lock and Key Event. With Lock and Key events, you can talk in person, read body language and can immediately tell if there is chemistry or not without having to email or chat back and forth a bunch of times, Reich says.